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Polyamory – It’s All About Communication


Hi, my name is Laurie Ellington with poly-coach. com. That’s poly-coach.com. I help individuals and couples in all kinds
of relationships, most poignantly, the open relationships, the polyamorous relationships,
and non-monogamy. I have conversations with people who are curious
about having those relationships or who are actively engaged in them and they’re coming
up against blocks, or situations that are causing frustration in their life. I even have couples that are doing an amazing
job and they just want a little third party to help them continue that work. Today, I wanted to share with you a little
bit about how we communicate with each other. Words, words, words, words, words. Words have meanings for different people. If I use the word commitment, that might mean
one of two things. Commitment could be being committed to something
like committed as in locked down. I’m committed to this so I have to do it no
matter what. It’s one definition. You could look it up in the Webster’s dictionary. There’s another definition as well. Committed as in terms of devotion, in terms
of I am devoted to this practice or I am devoted to this partner. Again, same word, two definitions. The reason why I share this with you is because
many times I’m working with couples where words are exchanged and then, all of a sudden,
there’s a conflict. It’s as if they’re just not getting it. One person may be saying this, this, this
and this, and the other person may be saying no, this, this, this and this. It’s the same word, “this, this, this and
this.” However, there’s a meaning, or a feeling,
or an intention underneath the word that we try to get to. That’s what I do in my communication practice
with people. Granted I don’t just go through a session
saying “this, this, this and this, and this, this, this and this.” I just share with couples my experience around
communication. I help them get unstuck when I see them locked
in some loop where they’re not understanding each other. More importantly, I take the time to have
couples slow down when they are sharing something with each other so that not only is what is
being shared expressed in a way that feels genuine and true, it’s also being received
in a way that is feeling genuine and true. The results of that are more clear connection,
more clear communication, a higher level of intimacy. Isn’t that what we all want? Again, my name is Laurie Ellington, with poly-coach.com. Go to my website. Check me out and I hope to hear from you. Bye-bye.

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