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How To Turn Her On With Body Language

Hey YouTube, Kate Spring here, dating and
relationship coach from Victoria, BC. A lot of you have been asking me how to turn
a girl on with your body language. And that is an excellent question! This is one of the best ways to simulate some
attraction between you and a little miss. Honestly, there is nothing better than those
butterflies that you get in your stomach when you start to develop feelings for someone
and their touch becomes electric! Body language is your non-verbal way of communicating
with people. It is equally as important as your verbal
communication. Whether you believe me or not, I promise you
that we interact and we judge people based on this type of communication whether consciously
or unconsciously. Having positive and engaging body language
is key to putting yourself ahead in the dating world. Just before we get started, make sure if you
have any questions at all to please leave them in the comments below and I’ll be sure
to get back to you, personally, as soon as I can! And let me know of other topics you want me to cover. The best thing to remember, and I can’t
stress this enough, is to make eye contact with her. Strong eye contact communicates to people
that you are more dominant and powerful than say someone with shfity eyes or someone who
is unable to hold eye contact. That type of person is understood as insecure. If you can make eye contact with a woman,
she will perceive you to be warmer, likeable and approachable. And when you are speaking with a woman, and
you are able to hold strong eye contact with her, it makes a girl feel like you are only
paying attention to her, which you should be. One at a time, it’s like when you were little
and your mom would only let you have one cookie at a time. Same thing applies here. When you are looking all around the room and
not at her, she will become disengaged and probably not want to continue talking to you
because through your eye contact, she feels like you would rather be elsewhere. So smile and face her with an open body posture. Don’t cross your arms in front of you, and
start asking her questions about herself. These are the basics! Women are extremely receptive to body language. And this is your first step in turning her
on with body language. Ask yourself, “what am I trying to accomplish
with my body language?” Or “what am I trying to communicate through
my body?” And, remember, you’re trying to communicate
that you are a confident man with a lot to offer a woman! You also want to communicate interest and
enthusiasm, not in the way where you stare at her and talk too close to her face. That will just make her uncomfortable and
most likely force her to clam up. Women are attracted to power. You can communicate this by taking up space. What I mean by take up space is be big. If you’re sitting down don’t cross your
legs or arms. Be open and sit with your legs apart and maybe
even your arm on the chair next to you. If you are feeling flirty, and the situation
feels right, you could slowly bridge the gap of space between you two. For example, soft touch on the shoulder, or
guiding her to the bar with your hand at the small of her back is a good place to start. If she is interested in you and is also exhibiting
some positive body language, then she will welcome this kind of touch. Attraction is best built in the body, but
to learn how to continue to build attraction when you aren’t face to face, head over
to and pick up a copy of my Attraction Building Handbook, which
is completely free by the way. Alright, if you want to know a little secret,
Amy Cuddy gives a TED Talk about how body language shapes who you are. She suggests that before you are going into
a job interview, in this case I’m going to say date, or any time you’re feeling
nervous and or small, make yourself big and hold that pose for 2 minutes. Make yourself stand in a power pose. This could be with your arms straight up in
the air or a superman-like pose. She says this has proven to make people feel
more confident. So if you are finding yourself nervous, and
you need an instant confidence boost, try this! I guarantee you that women will be more attracted
to the confident version of yourself. Another way to turn women on is to be calm. Because women are attracted to powerful, confident
men, if you are calm, she will mirror your reactions. Being calm means listening, having a relaxed
body posture—one that isn’t rigid and still, but is loose and friendly. Another part of being calm is that because
you are loose and at ease, you can lean into her, which will start to create a little sexual
tension. You want to play into the build up here because
this is the time to do it. And leave her wanting more. Turning a woman on with your body language
begins with your body posture, but you also have to dress your body to impress. How you present yourself is also part of your
body language. If you are trying to turn a woman on, dress
like it. I don’t mean whip out your leather ass-less
chaps, but dress like you want to be there and that you have put some thought and effort
into your appearance. If I know anything about women, it is that
we take time to present ourselves. If you are dressed like you don’t want to
be there, we will assume that you don’t. But if you look like you’ve made an effort
to be there, then we can tell. This is all part of that whole thought process
that suggests we like people who like us already. So if you’re dressed for us, we can tell
you like us, which will make us like you, which is what we want! Still following me? Okay, good. Let me repeat. We are attracted to people who like us, and
one of the ways you can communicate that to us non-verbally is if you dress like you’ve
put some thought into your outfit. This doesn’t mean you have to look like
a GQ model, but it does mean that your clothes should say that you have good taste. After all, it is that same good taste that
has attracted you to her. Alright, Guys. That’s all I have for you today. Stay up to date with my latest videos by subscribing
to my channel. Thanks for watching and I’ll see you next

100 Replies to “How To Turn Her On With Body Language”

  • Calm, and open is what I need to be more of. Good tips, we need more insight to the female perspective. Men give their thoughts so freely but I think women dont express themselves as fully a lot of the time, at least not to the world. Thanks for the info again

  • Your material is excellent, I loved what you said about dressing well, but your projection was a bit monotone throughout the video. Excellent job!

  • 1. Eye contact – no shifty eyes
    2. Open chest – no crossed arms
    3. Take up space
    4. Touch the small of the back
    5. Be calm and powerful
    6. Dress like you've put some thought into your outfit

  • My biggest hang up in dating is trying not to lose momentum with a girl while at the same time not being the first to text all the time. I legit feel the is the hardest thing in the dating world.

  • Hi Kate, Eye contact as a ride share driver is a challenge. What would you suggest in this case where most of the eye contact is done through the rearview mirror?

  • I want to keep flirting with my wife. To make her feel sexy wanted and very desired. Because damn she makes me loose it ever damn time she walks in the room. Even if its just comeing home from work. I wabt to keep that passion alive. Can you help?

  • Sucks because I never make eye contact it's just a habit. I just tend to look once at them and then I start looking at the floor or something, what is wrong with me ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚??

  • You're beautiful Kate… your videos have motivated me and my personality has changed a i feel like an alpha man.. wish i get a girl like you or may be probably you..๐Ÿ˜‰

  • Good information however my options are kinda limited as I take medication that means I canโ€™t drink (alcohol) so any advice on meeting in other situations

  • hey Kate, I filled my email at your page (twice, even) but never got the ebook. are you sure this is working?

  • I tried to concentrate on your lesson in the video but I was distracted by your beauty…or maybe it couldโ€™ve been your body language ๐Ÿค”

  • not complicated. Hygiene, clean clothes, honesty and proper manners are the usually the 3 most important things a man can do. Everything else is frosting on the cake.

  • Should I blink when doing the eye contact thing because I always try to see how long I can stare at their eyes without Blinking.

  • I like how you speak , you dont overact and you dont make unwanted expressions like other women make while speaking

  • Kate did your parents went for treasure hunting before you born. seriously I don't know how they got you…. You are damn hot good looking and I Iike your body language and voice too. And that eyes they are killing me.

  • I really enjoy your videos. You have an awesome approach to the topics you addressing. Keep up the great work Kate. Much love

  • Hi Kate, stumbled across your channel. I have a friend, 8 years my senior, I'm 38 now, and have recently realized I'm attracted to her. Whenever we are together, she always greats, hello & good-bye, with a kiss on the lips. (1st question: What is this gesture supposed to be telling me?).She is very shy, and she was in a bad marriage, so she battles to trust men, although I get the sense that she trusts me. Whenever she worries about stuff, she often asks me to call, or she will call me. After maybe an hour phone call, she's back to her old self. I believe she is well aware that I am attracted to her. (My verbal and non verbal communication HAS conveyed that), although I have not "Out-Right" Told her, but I have briefly kept my hand on her leg, while sitting together etc.

    What kind of signs should I be looking for, from her to tell me if she reciprocates the attraction?
    What message is she conveying through always greeting me with a kiss on the lips.?

    Apologies to those who think my questions are stupid, but knowledge is power

  • How can gentleman use the correct body language were it does not turn her off I found this difficult because when there is a nice room with lights I find that I am looking at the archetictor of the room and yes because I feel neverous when dating ladies that is were I go wrong and do you believe that 1st impression account like wearing a suit and tie katie

  • You are right there I have tried smart casual dress but does not work but I did try you last advice I said to one single lady I reckon you are a sporty type of person am I right she said yes

  • hey Kate…I came here for some helping tips in seduction progress…but now I m going to subscribe Ur channel for ur description section….thanx

  • Good reminders in this vid! I liked the part about being calm…I am naturally hyper, I think it may flummox some girls. And P.S. Kate, you remind me as an American how foxy Canadian girls are, whoa! Noyce

  • hi Kate so this is totally off the subject of this video!!!!but my question is should I just literally move on? when my best friend says I'm like family to her? like when we go out she prefers to says I'm a cousin because she says it's easier than explaining were just friends. and so yeah I get it!!! but something inside of me wants to keep hoping she has feelings for me as more than a friend. should I just let that hope go?

  • Well thereโ€™s a girl and she doesnโ€™t know how to text at all and even i know sheโ€™s into me, but she doesnโ€™t know what to text and thatโ€™s preventing me to escalate things a bit further, what should I do to turn things up?

  • I met girl last Spring in the bar talked to her a bit. Then about 6 months later I met her she was crossing the street we stopped and talked for almost 45 minutes. A few days later I seen her on Facebook we started talking. We went out to the bar one night to play pool till 3am. We have been playing Cribbage online together. She told me that she had gotten out of a bad relationship and she wasn't looking for anything. So I respected that ,the other day we were talking in the morning. She told me She took her boyfriend back because he said he was sorry. I have not received any type of message from her. I ask should I give her space or time to think about things? Or should I contact her! I haven't seen a word from her in 3 days. I said that being friends would not bother me but would it bother her boyfriend! I hear nothing could he be jealous of our friendship? Tell me what you think?

  • Hi Kate, you seem intelligent and worth listening to. My problem is, im never the โ€œ10โ€ in the room and i feel like i repel women. I make things awkward. Some tips?

  • okay I always struggle with eye contact. Not with holding it but for how long. Me and the girl I'm flirting with have this little game we play (honestly don't know if she knows she's doing it) where I usually hold longer eye contact with her (she'll break after 3-5 seconds) and a little bit later she comes back and literally does not break until I do and I don't know how to play it to be honest. We're in class in a table of 4 not on a date so I can't goof about it or just stare and make a joke about whose gonna break first because we aren't trying to be like that in a more professional setting. But I think we both know we're attracted to one another and idk what to do? Should I hold it until she breaks YOLO 25 seconds or shift from my paper/another person and back to here every 5 or so seconds?

  • VERY TRUE! Confident, Smiling Eye Contact is Key, AND it's impossible to overdo it because she'll only know if she chooses to keep it going!

  • What does it mean if the girl laughs constantly? I was in the bar with my old pal having a pint and watching football while the next table there were two girls having a drink and staring at us and laughing. I stood up and slowly walked towards them and said hello but for my surprise one of the girl continued with the laughter until I asked her if she always like that? She answered positively. I offered to buy them the drink they were having and they accepted but as the laughter continued I went back to my friend who asked what was the laughter about? I said to him I didnโ€™t know but I will ask a body language expert. So here I am asking my question to Kate.
    Believe me this really happened to me and I would love to know your honest answer.

  • Thank you, best advice is from women, you know yourself better then we do, love is hard to find, if it even exist anymore.

  • You can "talk" with your body as long as you want, but you need to know that those 0.30 seconds matter. It is the time people take to judge your physical appearence and whether you are attractive to him/her or not.

  • Thanx for your vids Kate. This was so useful…the tips are specific and readily usable on a day to day basis. Will start applying them right away!

  • ๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜ฒ๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜ฃ๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜ โ˜บ๐Ÿ˜—๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜™๐Ÿ˜ช๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜ƒ๐Ÿ˜€๐Ÿ˜‰๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜…๐Ÿ˜ฐ๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜”๐Ÿ˜—๐Ÿ˜š๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜ณ๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜„๐Ÿ˜–๐Ÿ˜“๐Ÿ˜จ๐Ÿ˜ฑ๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿ˜ˆ๐Ÿ‘ฟ๐Ÿ˜•๐Ÿ˜ฎ๐Ÿ˜ฎ em i turning u on kate?? Precious eyes kate

  • Kate I wanna know that and I need your help for that … See I like a girl and we both had I think 2-3 times eye contact but for 4-5 seconds and now what should I do the next and what should I do when she looks at me?

  • Omg Kate I would never take my eyes off you!!! It has been a minute since watching your always it's very relatable and helpful. Thank you! โคโค๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

  • My crush has been giving me some signals but I am confused if I am getting into a friendzone what to do

  • Hmm the first one kind of contradicts the theory that "eye-gazing" with the target person can produce strong feelings towards one another. Whereas "strong eye contact" could turn a woman off. Not saying Kate is wrong, just different theories out there. Each theory probably depends on the person(s).

  • Well I've been with my partner for 11 years and we have two children. She has no sex drive at all and I work allot. We have no time to ourself and I feel we have drifted apart intimately and physically. I try to give sensual massages and buy her just because gifts. She seems to have no physical attraction to me at all. She spends more time talking to her friends on social media and has no time for me.. she never compliments me or shows any interest in me at all. Is there anything I can do at all?? It feels like our sex life is over..

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