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5 tips – How to master small talks – Improve your communication skills

Hello my name is Niharika. Well, have you
ever wondered how some people can just walk into a room full of strangers and strike up
a conversation with practically anyone? The reason is because they are really great with
small talks. Now small talk are these casual conversations that avoid sensitive subjects
or any kind of arguments. And if you are one of those shy people, who think that small
talk is such a waste of time. Honestly small talk helps you to build a friendly atmosphere.
It helps you to gain self confidence and also it helps you to get to know people much better,
so in this session today we are gonna look at some tips that would help you to mastering
small talk. The first tip that I have for you to master
small talk is, Prepare yourself. Now can you imagine a football player not warming up before
a big match or a lawyer not jotting down the key points, just before an important case?
Well, it’s important to prepare yourself. Well, especially for shy people. If you’re
shy this is the most critical step. You need to prepare yourself, now probably you can
think or jot down the hot topics. And also your experiences related to it, so if you
go ahead and start a conversation with someone about something, you also have some stuff
to talk about it. So for example, you can think of a new movie that you just recently
watched. You can talk about that or probably a vacation that you are planning with your
family or even current affairs. Something that’s just going on in the world and people
are very keen to know about it or to talk about it. So make sure you jot down some points,
prepare yourself and then just go ahead, pump up your conversation. The second step that I have for you is, Be
the first one. When I say be the first one. It means that you are supposed to go ahead
and start a conversation. Are you one of those people, who just hang back and get really
nervous, when you have to start up a conversation with someone? Well, you need to quit doing
that, you need to be confident enough to just go up and start a conversation with someone.
To begin with, probably you can just smile and just look at the person, give those receptive
signals that would create a positive energy and then just go ahead and start talking.
Now probably if you are in a party, then you can say, hey how do you know the host? First
the very first thing that you need to do is introduce yourself. Say that, Hi I’m Niharika,
so tell me how do you know the host of the party? So this is the way, you would start
making a conversation with someone. So the most important thing that you need to keep
in mind is that you should be the first one. Don’t just wait and feel nervous that okay
someone else will come up to you and start talking to you. Stop doing that and you be
the first one. The third tip that I have for you is, Listen
carefully. Now it’s an extremely important thing to do, Active listening. When you are
having a conversation with someone, it’s important to pick up the facts, key words
and the phrases that would help you to build a mental picture and continue the conversation
gracefully. For example, someone says, Oh you know Chicago is like my dream vacation.
So now you understood, what he or she is talking about, so to continue your conversation. Probably
you can start talking about the city. Probably if you are grown up in that city, then you
would say, Oh that city where I grew up. So you know this would help you to carry on the
conversation carefully. So please make sure that you listen to the other person, when
you are having a small talk. The fourth point that I have for you is to
avoid unpleasant topic. Now its very important as I said in the beginning that small talk
are casual conversations. It’s very important for you to avoid these unpleasant topics or
obscure subjects, Like a divorce or probably someone being raped or even layoffs. These
are very very sensitive matters and at time these topics, you know create an argument
or a misunderstanding. So that definitely doesn’t create a positive image about you,
so make sure you avoid such sensitive or obscure subjects and stick to very light topics. Like
movies, vacations, books or current affairs or just shopping. So that would help you to
have light casual conversations with people. The last tip that I have for you is, To end the
conversation gracefully. Now many people think that to begin a conversation you have to be
the best. But many people fail to understand that it is very important to even end the
conversation gracefully, so please do that, probably what you can do is, you can highlight
the mutual interest. So you have spoken to the person and you realized that there are
many points of interest that really match. Even you like to do something that the other
person likes to do. So go ahead and highlight these interests and make sure, you end the
conversation gracefully. It should not be an abrupt end, by just saying, Okay bye. That’s
incorrect. You would say that its very nice meeting you or we’ll definitely keep in
touch. This is the way you are creating a very positive impression about you. You know
it looks as if you value the person that you just met. So make sure that you end your conversations
gracefully. This brings me to the end of this session.
Hope these tips are really helpful to you and make sure, you note these tips and g ahead
use them to pump up your conversations. I’ll be back with a new lesson soon. Till then
you keep watching our videos, we have lots of videos about small talks that would help
you to gain confidence and talk with people gracefully.

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