10 Hand Gestures Every Man Should Know (Body Language Secrets) | RMRS
August 10, 2019
Use Your Hands To Communicate Like A Badass
[0:00:00] So, you’re walking across the stage about
to give a presentation to a hundred people and all of a sudden you started to think,
what do I do with my hands? Well, you can’t get rid of them, but do
you put them behind you? Do you put them next to your side? Do you bring them up? You feel awkward. Guys, if this is you, you’re going to love
today’s video. We’re talking about hand placement when
you’re walking or talking. What to do with your hands when you’re nervous. Are you ready, guys? Let’s get into it. [Music]
So, let’s start things off by talking about why it’s so important that when you speak
you talk with your hands as well. This is based on the 2005 study coming out
of the University of Rome. People are more likely to listen to you when
you’re using your hands. So, if a number of people are speaking, you’re
going to listen to the person whose hands are moving. And then, when you’re listening to them,
you’re actually more likely to hear them even if they’re speaking with the same voice. When you don’t have hand movements, people
can’t hear you as well. Next up, they’re more likely to understand
what you just said and they’re more likely to remember what you just said. And the last two points I think are pretty
obvious when it comes to hand gestures is they help you exaggerate and add emphasis
to what you’re saying and, they express your state of mind, basically, your level
of emotions. Now, before I get into specific hand gestures. I want to talk about best practices. So, let’s draw a box right here. We’re going to go about 36 inches and then
about 24 inches down. This is the box that you want your hand gestures
to fit into. And basically, you’re going to stay within
this box. If you go outside the box, you are crazy man. If you have no gestures at all, you are robot. This is very culturally-based. So, you’re going to find maybe in Canada
over in India very different than it is in the United States over in England or Australia. So, how many gestures per minutes should you
be using with your hands when you’re giving a presentation when you’re talking to people? Well, if you’re doing ten or less, that
is low. If you’re doing forty or more, that is a
bit high. Now, there’s an interesting study over at
the Science of People and they looked at the best TEDx speakers when they’re giving presentations. Twenty six gestures per minute is what the
best average. Now, what about holding things when you’re
giving a presentation maybe a clicker? So, you go to the slides, maybe you want to
have a pen, so you can do a point you’ve got a laser pointer or just you want to have
something in your hands. I think this is good especially if you’ve
got bad habits which we’ll get into here in a few minutes. But, I’ve got certain little things that
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hand gestures and positions that any man can use. First up, open hands. This is all about honestly. It’s showing your hands, showing that you
have nothing in your hands that you’re not going to attack the other person. Next up, we’ve got open arms. This is showing you’ve got nothing to hide. Now, again, don’t go overly crazy here unless
that is your intention. But open arms, it signals I want to bring
you in, I am open to your ideas and to what you’re bringing. Next up, we’ve got the fist pump. Oh, yeah, this is signaling victory that something
good just happened. This is about emphasis and sending a signal
of strong emotion. Next up, we’ve got the hand rubbing. This is all about plotting. This is all about, okay, we got something
sneaky going on. I’m thinking here, something’s going. Basically, the wheels are turning. Next up, we’ve got the hand on the heart. This is showing that you are sincere that
this is coming from the heart. Next up, we’ve got stop, halt, do not come
any farther, stop what you are doing, I’m interrupting you. A very powerful signal, be very careful with
this one. Now, this one, you want to be very careful
with as well and that is pointing. People don’t like it when you point to them,
but if you’re talking to a group and you want to get the point across, you can point
up a bit, you can point down and oftentimes this gets the audience to look in a specific
direction. [0:05:08]
Now, the next example I’ve used in a number of my videos and that is this versus that. And I do a lot of comparisons and that’s
what we’re doing here. We’re taking a person over and we’re being
very clear that there is something over here and that something over here they are very
different. Next up, we’ve got tiny versus big. And, again, it gets the point across and helps
people remember especially useful in a story. Next up, we’ve got the spread fingers. And this one is showing that you are in charge,
that you are calculated, that you are calm. You can move your fingers out. I rarely use this one, but I do use the next
one quite a bit and that is the praying. Now, the praying I purposely try not to use
this one. I don’t want to send out that symbolism
with it, but what I do is this right here. I’ve used this many times already in this
video. I use this to emphasize a point that is important. So, really quick, gentlemen, if you’re enjoying
this video, click in that like button. If you’re new to Real Men Real Style, smash
that subscribe. Now, notice that hand gesture? The point is, guys, I want you to become part
of our Real Men Real Style community. So subscribe, click on that bell notification,
so that when these videos come out, you get notified. Let’s talk about the five things you don’t
want to do with your hands. First up, your hips, you want to avoid putting
your hands here because this sends the message that you’re condescending that you’re
overbearing that you are acting like a parent. Next up, we’ve got crossed arms. You’re cut off, you don’t want to be a
part of what they’re doing, you disagree. Next up, we’ve got hands behind the back. This makes you look like you’re inspecting
the troops that you’re aloof that you’re above others. Next up, we’ve got hands crossed in front. This makes you look weak and timid. And now, let’s talk about one that I admit
I do and that is putting my hands in my pockets. However, there are good ways and bad ways
to do this. Now, one of the worst things you can do with
your hands is put both of them in your pockets fully. This makes you look nervous, it looks like
you’re hiding something, you’re insecure, you’re dishonest because what you’re doing
is you’re hiding the hands. Now, how to get away with putting your hands
in your pockets? Don’t put both, instead just put one and
either expose your thumb or your fingers. I like exposing the thumb, I think it’s
more of a power look; the fingers, more of a sexual look. But what we see here with the fingers and
the thumb is that this right here is a very relaxed pose. Now, if you’re going to continue to put
both hands in your pockets, the best way that you can do this is simply expose the thumb. This right here, it just gives relax to casual
look. Now, if you expose the fingers, the problem
here is that we’re pointing guess where? Right at the crotch, so it’s a little bit
of a sexual pose. So, if the purpose of your hands is to give
you balance when you’re walking, should you just gesture when you’re walking? I think it is fine if you’ve practiced and
you know what signals and what message you want to send. And this takes me to my final point and that
is to make sure that you control the gestures that you’re using. Everything we talked about in today’s video,
it’s about you understanding the message you send with your hands. All right, gentlemen. Now, it’s your turn. I want to hear from you down in the comments. Notice those hand gestures there? Guys, the point is I really do want to hear
from you, guys. I love going down the comments and reading
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of today’s video. So, really quick I want to share with you
a pet peeve. I hate it when I go down in the comments and
people are talking about the size of my hands or I use too many hand gestures. Guys, I can’t do anything about the size
of my hands. This is just simply what I’ve got. And if you’ve got big hands, you’ve got
small hands, guys, don’t let the haters don’t let it bother you. Guys, haters are going to hate, you just got
to get right past them, right? Nothing I can do about the size of my hands. It’s just simply the way I’m made. [0:09:06] End of Audio
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Is dan lok in menfluence 2019. Or even in mensfluence?
Your watches you promote are so cheap looking.
That watch transition.
Great idea for a video
Sometime when people notice me, i cant walk naturally. Anyone?!
TX Antonio
Great Video,Thank you
Good information! I need to cut back on the crazy arm flail.
The timing of this is impeccable… isn't the SOTU today?
Italian anyone?
Great video. Thanks for another one, Antonio!
This video could come in handy ๐
Secret REVEALED:
You can implement this hand postures on a regular basis. You are always speaking to an audience.
Even when it is one to one ๐
What about the "okay" hand symbol, where your pointer finger touches your thumb? You often use this gesture.
I like how Antonio get to the point really quick ๐๐ฝ
wtf this guy dosnt blink!!?
Love the advice. Thank you.
Love the longer
More informational videos
NEXT PLEASE, about legs shape. O and X shape. how to get rid of this? thank u . Great video ๐
Great video. I always do the thumbs out- hands in pocket gesture. It always gives me a feel masculine vibe.
Hey Antonio. New viewer, new subscriber.
My most used hand gesture, is the 'just a minute.' I use this a lot, and if Im sitting (either on the phone, or lunch at my desk) I have to be careful about where my hand goes, because I want to put the gesture between my face and the person talking to me. That can get odd, so I have to make sure they see the gesture by telegraphing it a bit, and following it with a pointing gesture. (Normally at my phone or mouth)
Like I said, I'm new and so I apologize if you have covered this before, but It's something I would like some advice on.
I work as an EMT, and so I have a uniform that I need to wear while working. I still try to stand out, by making sure that my boots stay clean, and that I have a nice watch and belt that complement each other as much as possible.
My question Antonio, is there anything else you can recommend for me to add to a uniform that will make me stand out more?
I know this is kind of a long comment, but thanks for taking the time to read all of it, and have a great day!!
A handy topic. Thanks a lot ๐ค
I use the knife hand a lot. If you're in the military, you know what I mean
thank u
I'll be watching and rewatching this video multiple times. Very very good stuff. Btw, the gray suit and whatever pitch or shade of light blue that is on the shirt is spot on perfect!! Love that color combo on you, Antonio. .
San Diego Consultants and Communication Skills, and Toastmasters. …Every, Marine Recruiter, goes through an intense amount of public speaking classes and most attend and participate in the Toastmasters to learn to speak professionally before the public. Now unless you are a Marine assigned to become a Recruiter. You are going to have to look into these two institutions on your own, and many community colleges offer similar courses so AHHH, that was an intentional insert, as poor as improper use of the hands and body. Very very very important to learn to speak , communicate publicly. Nothing is worse than a manager or teacher or salesman. ..who has poor verbal and communication skills. Especially if you are taking to those of us who have been trained in those areas.
Super lame man
Shit i always use hands in the back ๐
Antonio what to do while listening (hand gestures)
You're so helpful mate
What dhd be gesture in Interviews?
Politicians in the UK (and elsewhere I'm sure) avoid the rudeness associated with pointing their fingers by pointing using their thumb (fingers are balled into a fist with the thumb resting on and slightly stretched out on the index finger). Think it's quite a powerful look/gesture. Check it out.
Thanks… Man… You're the gentleman of.. YouTube Faishon community.. Stylish.. And classic….
My problem got solved, Thank you
When you talk the listener is very focused on how you are saying the idea and what your: eyes, hands, posture, legs are doing, so having a great speach is also about not talking
That segway towards sponsor came out for no where, I know it's not easy always but this was weried
You'd make a great Thanos voice.
Nice usefull๐๐
What about crossed arms but with your hands on your arms?
WoW.. Such unique content you come up with Antonio.. Very informative and fun to watch .. Just love the way you present.
Don't know why your subscriptions are not growing…
i clicked just to find out what ad did he put in this one :)))
Antonio if possible please do a video on what to do in public with stuff like sneezing,yawning etc/on dinners etc i wanna know the best practices so it doesnt become embarassing
What about finger snap, is it good or is it bad?
awesome
Rabbit ears.
Peace.
Let him live.
High five.
Here is the church, here is the steeple..
Fuck you..
great video i loved it and opened my eyes to things i do that i never thought of when i am among a group of my peers.
I'm big on walking around with my thumbs in my pockets, it just works for some people. ๐ Loved the video! It's interesting that Italians would do a study on talking with their hands. Now I will feel more comfortable gesturing about everything. Thank you!
Sir is royal blue ok for interviews?
Please make videos ASAP.
Thank you
Hey Antonio, just wanted to say thanks for the watch you gave me for a comment on another video! It looks fantastic!
This is also something that's glossed over too often. Certain professions also lend to different gestures and mannerisms as well. As a LEO, I tend to keep my weapon hand free and either on my belt or by my sidearm, and have to make due with using my support hand for gestures.
Also, I'm somewhat disappointed that knife hands weren't used. C'mon, Devil.
Hey Anthony. Another good one!
Since many of us have โman diseaseโ, perhaps you should sell style flash cards on your website. Iโm serious. Simple printed cards we can we can use for practice/reinforcement. Someone in your family could have a small business creating them.
Thumb out of pocket is the representation of arrogance or Selfishness.
You forgot the thumbs up gesture
This video exemplifies why I treasure your channel: it's not just about the aesthetics but also the cerebral.
My favourite hand gesture to use is the thumbs-up. It's useful when you want to tell someone they did well on a project or presentation. Although, you should be careful with this gesture since it means "Up yours" or "Screw off" in certain countries (Australia, Greece, the Middle East).
I really like this vid. I have struggled with this in the past thank u. ๐๐โ๐โ๐คฒ๐๐๐๐๐ค๐๐โ๏ธ๐๐
You sound and talk like Andy from Toy Story. Not in a bad way though. Please make a cowboy style video.
Crazy funny. Check out โlittle homiesโ by Frankie Quinones on YouTube.
Every Italian in NYC all just shouted "I KNEW IT!"
Vincer-NO.
Two related questions I was hoping you would answer. What do you do with your hands when not gesturing? You said no to behind the back, in the pockets, crossed arms. So just hands at sides in between gestures? Second, are you saying to keep hands inside the box all the time, or only during gestures. Thanks man. Great video.
Great information, Antonio can you recommend a good womens style channel? Similar to your style of videos, my wife is interested
Great video Antonio
is it ok to move on the stage when u r presenting?? (of course not moving from one end to the other)
I wish more people would watch these and get tips on how to be a gentleman because so many men are disrespectful and I won't even talk about gender changes.
Quality is important in the suit upper pocket of the blazer
Your style and advice I adore
Tailored suit are wonderful, yet a slight zoot suit always works
Just my opinion
Awesome video brother you are the best
I can't subscribe until you stop taking money from Vincero. Pushing fashion watches is one way to lose credibility…
Alpha
This guy is very credible.
Antonio, great tips a few I already knew about as I frequently speak in public. However, there were several tips I wasn't aware of so very helpful. My greatest goof is the hands in the pocket, by the way, don't have your keys in there as you end up fidgeting with them and it just looks… wrong!
Thank you man
Antonio! How could you forget the knife hand??
I wish i watched this video before my speech
I like to put my one hand in my pants like the pocket one, except it's in front.
Why the ring finger? I've also seen alot of News anchors / tv personalities point to their ring finger.
5:04 Never thought I would see Kim Jong-un on your channel
Your face ( mouth) expression man!! Plz stop
I really like the "pinch" gesture with all five fingers. Palm facing upwards has you talking like a stereotypical Italian (nothing wrong with that), but I prefer making linear and circular gestures with the palm downwards, like moving a chesspiece.
You are awesome, my favorite and I love your tips and tricks. Thanks Antonio โค๏ธ
With my A-level exam presentations coming up, this will prove helpful
More great information Antonio.
Yeah i got a habit of crossing my arms and putting both hands in my pockets!! Working that out๐
This is awesome coaching on gestures! Implementing today…
4:44 stop right there criminal scum you have committed crimes against skyrim and her people
Your hands are small ๐๐
I know what you said.
I started using hand gestures in public speaking and although it was tough at the beginning and sort of awkward, I soon got the hang of it and it seems people started enjoying my speeches more. So thanks a bunch ๐
Thanks
My hands are usually beaten and sometimes dirty , and havenโt been expressive enough. Till now
The NCO power pose, for confidence ["I am in charge"]- light grip over the belt, thumbs just outside of buckle, fingers curled to touch just around the bottom. This is great for those who have the hands in the pockets issue. Used it a lot when in the Army, where regulations dictate "no hands in the pockets" [which as a result called pockets "Air Force Mittens" since they seemed to be allowed to use them].
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Dan Lok, Alpha M, did I see Vanessa van Edwards or at least a mention of the science of people ..
Why don't you blink? It's part of the our body language?
Vincero ๐๐
((( Hand rubbing )))
I been working over a year to get a project moving though research phase and got a shot in the arm yesterday receiving a request to be in a Professor's stead. Now I am watching these videos so can do a better job of getting this new persons help and represent my Professor well. Antonio has me energized.
As for hands, have bad shoulder joints so resting in a pocket helps. So how about what I do when not walking, having a fist with the thumb hooked on the pocket or waistband, one or both hands?
This is so helpful
Alright Marine get those hands out of your pockets! ๐ Semper Fi!
Can you do, or have you done, a video on the do's and don'ts concerning physical contact (grasping the arm, clapping the shoulder/s, etc.)
One of the very few times where going out the box is not a benefit, its an issue