06 Phrases smart people don’t say – Improve communication skills, business etiquette & be confident.
September 20, 2019
Hey friends, welcome back to Skillopedia,
the place to learn skills for the real world. You are with me; Niharika and what are we
going to learn in today’s session? Well, we are going to look at certain phrases that
you need to drop out of your vocabulary right now. Well, I call them as career killers.
You know there are certain phrases that smart people do not use because you never know how
people would interpret them. So it’s important for you to use the same phrases, however in
other ways and that’s what I’m going to help you with in today’s session. So which
are these career killers that you need to drop out of your vocabulary, well let’s have
a look. Well the first phrase that you are not supposed
to use in the business world is, it’s not fair. Well of course life is not fair. Well
we do want our life to be just perfect, but that’s not reality. Life is never fair but
you can’t really use this phrase in front of people because when you end up using that
hey life is not fair in front of people in the business world, well people would think
that you are absolutely immature or naive. It’s important for you to stay constructive
and confused. For example, well there was this really important project that you wanted
to work on, but your boss assigned it to one of your colleagues. Now you are really upset
about it. So what do you do? You walk up to your boss and you end up saying, hey that’s
not fair. Well no. you are not going to do that. You are not a little kid to do that.
Well what you are going to do is, you are going to go up to your boss and you are going
to ask for a feedback. You are going to say that, hey I was really looking forward for
this project and I was really wanting to work on it but you assigned to John so what’s the
reason like is there anything that I need to improve on? Well that’s how you put it.
So stop using the phrase, that’s not fair. The next phrase that you need to stay away
from, is this is how it works always. Well are you really very lazy? You need to stop
using that phrase. Now, if you end up telling people, your boss, your colleagues or your
clients that hey this is how it works always. Well it shows that you are way too lazy and
you don’t want to improve on things. For example technology, like even technology, a six month
old process seems to be very outdated, right? So why not the pattern of your work? It has
to change, you need to bring in changes to improve on something. So the next time someone
comes to you and wants things in a different way, you are not supposed to say that , hey
this is how it works always. Well you need to work on yourself, you need to bring in
new things in order to improve your work. So stop using that kind of a phrase. Another commonly used phrase which is sure
shot a career killer is, I’m going to ask you a very silly question. Well no question
is silly, no question is stupid. Many people tend to do that. I know this is a very silly
or a very stupid question. Well this means that you are not confident about yourself.
Well do not judge yourself, do not be your worst critic. You need to come out confidently.
If you have a question, if you have any kind of information or any idea that you would
like to share with your team members, with your clients or with your boss, just go ahead.
Be confident about it. By saying that, hey this is a very silly idea or by saying that
this is a very stupid question, well that’s it, people are not going to trust you. It
just shows that you are not confident about yourself. So just ne confident and go ahead
ask your question or share your ideas. The next common phrase that people use is,
that he is such a jerk, he is absolutely incompetent. He is so lazy. Well you need to stop doing
that. You cannot really go ahead and start announcing or form opinions about others.
By doing so, it just shows that how insecure you are about yourself. Now if you don’t have
the power to improve them or if you don’t have the power to fire them, then what’s the
point of announcing or broadcasting them as lazy, incompetent or jerks. That’s not going
to help you, right? So, it’s important for you to just understand that yes there are
times that we do live with difficult people, we do work with lazy, incompetent jerks. But
there’s no point by announcing them as one of these lazy, jerk people. Just stay confident,
just focus on your work and you would be successful. The next phrase that people end up using which
I consider to be the great career killer is, that it’s not my fault. Yes there are people
who love to play the blame game. It’s not my fault, it’s coz of him. It’s because of
her that this just went wrong. Well stop doing that, it just shows that you lack accountability.
There are people who are going to build this negative image about you, you start pointing
out fingers. People are going to really avoid working with you. So if you want to be a great
team player, it’s important for you to take the accountability. If it is your fault have
the courage to admit it. If it is someone else’s fault well let your boss or your colleague
figure that out. You don’t have to be the one to point out fingers and by saying that
hey it’s not my fault. Just quit doing that and trust me that it is going to work in your
favor. The most important phrase that you need to
drop from your vocabulary is, I hate, I hate, I hate. So what do you hate? Well yes there
are people around you, who end up using this phrase way too much. They love to crib and
complain about everything. I hate my boss, I hate my job, I’m so stressed. I hate my
colleagues, I hate everything. Yes, if you hate your life or your job or your boss so
much, it’s time to quit. Stop spoiling the work environment. There are people around
you who want to feel motivated and encouraged. Now is you end up being so negative, you are
spoiling the work environment. Nobody is going to really enjoy working with you and like
I said, if you hate so many things about your job, about your work, about your life, then
try to work on things that would improve your life. Try to do something that you would really
want to and like to. So stop using the phrase, I hate, I hate, I hate. So this brings me to the end of this session
today. It’s time for you to eliminate these phrases if you are using them because this
will make you into a complete negative person. So please do eliminate these phrase from your
vocabulary because they are definitely not used by smart and successful people and do follow us on Skillopedia, the place to learn skills for the real world.